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Elis Matthews

Elis Matthews

Elis is currently at vicar school, where he combines eating cake, reading books and learning how to lead a church. Having been diagnosed with azoospermia in 2012, he now blogs occasionally about childlessness and is exploring fertility treatment with his lovely wife, Sheila. He was once in an advert for washing detergent with Frank Bruno... fistpump.

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Oxymoron

By On 18 June 2016

Last year I celebrated ten years of being married to Sheila. Way back we’d had grand plans of how we were going to celebrate this milestone. It seemed like a biggy. An exotic holiday, an eternity ring (this seemed like a pretty central demand), a full-on romantic blowout… Then, of course, I felt called to become a vicar, and Sheila…

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Talking Childlessness on Radio 4

By On 14 December 2015

We’re thrilled that the conversation about childlessness is starting to get recognised so that hopefully staying silent about this painful issue won’t remain the norm.  Our very own Sheila and Elis were invited onto Radio 4 to talk about their own experience of infertility, their interview is about 13 minutes in. Listen to Sheila and Elis talk about childlessnes on Radio…

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Happy Anniversary

By On 13 August 2014

Today marks nine years of marriage to my beloved bride. I could fill a book with thoughts and feelings dedicated to the remarkable woman who bounded down the aisle before the music had chance to play on 13th August 2005 and kickstarted the biggest adventure of my life so far with vows, rings and barbecue and a bouncy castle. But…

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#mothersday

By On 28 March 2014

As a Christian, every Sunday is a festival, a day of life as I remember that Jesus died for my sins and rose again on Easter Day in glory. I celebrate that truth by breaking bread and drinking wine in church among other believers. It’s a glorious meal of unity where all are equal, all are welcome. But this Sunday…

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Tears Are Always Good … Burps Not So Much

By On 30 January 2014

This blog comes off the back of something my beloved wife said to a friend this weekend just gone. The friend and Sheila had been in tears during an emotional and Spirit-filled act of worship. [At this point it may be worth pointing out to those reading that it’s not unusual for Christians to cry, expressing a whole range of…

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Stones on the Hillside

By On 9 August 2013

Somewhere on the fine line between hope and superstition, I went for a walk. The walk started at work. This was back before I knew about having azoospermia, when having babies was still a possibility, when we were still trying out names and middle names, when we were still hopeful. I walked from the office (in the middle of woodland)…

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Not an Average Monday Morning

By On 27 June 2013

“There are some magazines in the box if you’re interested.” It’s the kind of thing a pubescent boy might dream of being told by their older brother (accompanied by a nudge and a wink). But coming from a male embryologist on a Monday morning in the centre for reproductive medicine at Bart’s Hospital, the suggestion of naughty pictures did not…